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Why you will NEVER be rich. Why you will never live la dolce vita. And what you won’t do about it.

by Dr. Jeffrey Lant

Author’s program note. This is an article about something you’ve craved, desired, wished for… but now, aging and chagrined, know you will never have… never be any closer to than when you were sixteen or the last time you seriously consulted “Esquire” for a fashion make over.

And that is financial independence.

You don’t have to believe me, probably won’t. So (smelling salts at the ready) take a look at your assets. Pathetic, isn’t it? And the sad fact is… you won’t do anything about it. Probably can’t.

But before we develop this maudlin theme further, you’d better imbibe some of Nino Rota’s masterful score from Fellini’s perpetually edgy masterpiece “La Dolce Vita” (1960). You’ll find it in any search engine. It is about the craziness of love, money and desire played out in Rome, where the unending search for the sweet life will devour you as it has devoured generations before you, including a whole College of Cardinals, and expectant generations still to come.

Now let us begin, for you have wasted far too much time, and have so little left.


The first reason la dolce vita will elude you is that you’ve waited too long to use the present to shape the future. Now hear this: to become rich by your own insistent hands and devices, you must start from the first minute you glimpse the awful and shocking truth that you are not going to be young and beautiful for ever. What? Moi?

Yes, I’m afraid so. One of these days some current play fellow of yours, who just a moment ago complimented your bodacious curves and knock-’em-out bootie, will be considering the unfairness of fate whilst scrutinizing your flesh-specked skull, for all the world like Hamlet and hapless Yorick.

Dire, but who cares?

Very well, you muffed your biggest advantage — time. Sadly, the more you wasted; the less organized and efficient you were, the fewer options you have. There are two things you can do about this: 1) radically alter your lifestyle or 2) do nothing. You’ll say, of course, that you’ll make adjustments, but we both know, don’t we, how lazy and incorrigible you have been in the past… and intend to be in the future. In other words, you’ll continue to talk the good, the plausible, the smooth game… but you won’t lift your pampered pinkie to achieve the objective.

What objective?

The plain truth is you have never had a specific, written financial objective; the older you get, the more glaring its omission. For example: have you checked to see just how long a person of your age, gender, and health can expect to live? In other words do you know what you’re working with? It figures. You want the dolce vita, but you haven’t got a clue about how much “vita” is left. So, for openers let’s play “This is the rest of your life.” For most of you even Ralph Edwards, a man with helium in his leather pumps, couldn’t squeeze much optimism from the too sad facts.

Napoleon, no objective, St Helena.

The most celebrated man in history who lived without objectives was the great Napoleon himself. It’s what brought him down from the highest of pinnacles and human achievement to life on a poky little sheep ranch called St. Helena. You see, before each campaign he’d steal the soldiers he’d need and the money. Then, without forethought, he’d set down the road… without goal, without objective. He was, you see, the ultimate wing-er. Goals, he reckoned, could take care of themselves…

Europe offered him this province and that if he would say just what he wanted and, in time honored fashion, stop with the current larceny; in other words once he was bought, stay bought. However,if things were going well, he declined to parlay; it they weren’t going well, he declined to parlay until at last the aristocrats understood they must work together, did so, and snuffed the man who, if he had a reasonable goal, would have ruled the roost and been the greatest sovereign since the Caesars. It is unrecorded if his imperial majesty liked mutton. I doubt it.

Now, assets.

A detailed look at what you loosely term your “assets” now is necessary. Gather what you jocosely call your “financial records,” you know, that laughable pile of gum wrappers, lottery tickets, naughty Internet sites, and legal mumbo-jumbo about a stock you once owned. You’ll need pencil, paper and true grit for this crucial exercise.

Now, sit down and start…. And, pray, don’t snivel, whine or sob!!!; much less “special plead” and “explain” as we review the little you wish to transform into the enough, the more than enough, and that fast receding life you once though would arrive without much effort or work of any kind. Oh, how the ill-informed and grossly self-deceived have fallen.

What assets?

Get a grip on yourself. You are about to do the hardest of tasks; telling the truth about you, the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. It will cause you pain; it will make you squirm; it will make you perspire and cause your life with every wrong decision and miscalculation to flash before your horrified eyes.

Why have I put that gun on the table? Because I know given the chance you’d be out of here like a jack rabbit. So, shall we begin?

The overwhelming number of folks have just about $30,000 in assets upon retirement. That’s probably within shouting distance of where you are now, assuming you wish to retire in, say, five years. I hope you’re smiling, sugar, because you’re going to have to place a brave face upon this dismal reality. And while you’re at it, try learning the lyrics to Charlie Chaplin’s moving song, “Smile though your heart is breaking….” Just remember this, when he wrote it he was probably the best known entertainer in the world and amongst the richest men on Earth. It’s easy to weep into your beer and warble movingly under those conditions.

Under water.

So…. grimly…you list your primary asset, your house. The Great Recession of ’08 wiped out such assets for most people for the better part of a generation. If you’re looking here for salvation, look again. It’s not coming any time soon and certainly not to fund a lifestyle less dolce every day. And as for any other “assets”, you know and I know their collective value is negligible. And as for that grotesque Chinese vase your auntie bought 50 years ago in San Francisco, you’ll be waiting a long, long time before “Antiques Road Show” tells you it’s fake, Ming indeed! Nice try.

Two choices.

So, what are you going to do? You could get realistic and stop wishing for something that’s not going to happen. Take your $30,000 (or so) and give yourself a week in Paris Greta Garbo would envy. Splurge. When it’s over, it’s over. Enjoy what you’ve had; don’t pine for more. You’ve had a nice taste of what you wanted. Be grateful. This is not the American way, of course; no matter how much you get, you want more… and moan to high heaven when you don’t have it, can’t afford it, and can’t get it.

The solution? It’s right in front of you. It’s called the Internet, and it’s a gold mine… if you work with the right people and follow simple directions. I know what I’m talking about. Nearly twenty years ago, when the ‘net was new and primitive. I made a calculated decision that it would be the most important, the transformational technology of my life. Without hesitation I affiliated way back then with a genius named George Kosch who explained to me, already a successful businessman in publishing and direct mail, why the ‘net was the big play. As a result I made millions of dollars.

Now hear this: you can, too. Everything you need is just one click away, easy to understand, easy to start. What’s more you’ll never work alone, will always have assistance and instruction and need to know absolutely nothing about technology. Now see for yourself. Go to and immerse yourself in your successful future.

But we both know, don’t we, what you’ll do… thereby killing your last chance (short of a winning lottery ticket or the timely demise of an unknown relative) of much “vita” at all, much less any that’s dolce. Caio, bella. We’ll miss you on the Via Veneto. And remember, to be rich, is to be beautiful… forever.

About the Author

Harvard-educated Dr. Jeffrey Lant is CEO of Worldprofit, Inc., providing a wide range of online services for small and-home based businesses. Services include home business training, affiliate marketing training, earn-at-home programs, traffic tools, advertising, webcasting, hosting, design, WordPress Blogs and more. Find out why Worldprofit is considered the # 1 online Home Business Training program by getting a free Associate Membership today. Republished with author’s permission by Daniel Fischer Check out Info Cash ->

How to move up and up where you work, even in a punk economy. These vitalpoints guarantee your success. That’s why you should carry them with youeverywhere.

by Dr. Jeffrey Lant.

Author’s program note. I’m writing this article at 5 a.m. Sunday morning, the time when my more leaden-footed competitors are still fast asleep dreaming of the next Jimmy Buffett concert they just can’t wait to attend. Yes, per usual, I have stolen a march, maybe two, on those who may say they value time managed for maximum effect… but show by their every word and action that they just don’t get it… and that’s very good news for you who adhere to the “lead, follow, or get out of the way” School of Upward Mobility. After all, the less they understand, know and do about the matter, the faster you ascend to greatness — if and only if you follow these recommendations.

You are your chief cheerleader. Better start acting like it.

Riddle me this, bat person. When you last entered the parking lot at your place of employ were there beaming colleagues strategically positioned to wish you well, Godspeed and up, up and away? Of course not… you got the same lame greetings and comments (if those) you always get… pathetic, forgettable, pitiful. It was hardly like the great Pasadena Rose Parade, a celestial flurry of flower petals to provide just the right effect for you.

Fast Breaking News: The off-handed way you were treated today when you arrived at your place of (not nearly gainful enough) employment is what you can expect in the interminable days, months, and years ahead… and if this doesn’t motivate you to take your so-called career in hand and make radical changes in how you’ll approach it, maximum success being the only acceptable goal, then shame on you.

I want you to grasp one fundamental truth about you, your career and your trek for succeess. NO ONE (even sometime spouses and adult children who, to your acute exasperation, still live with you at age 45); NO ONE, I aver, asseverate and decidedly assert, cares about your current career and the radical retooling you must begin at once so as to achieve goals which are of prime importance only to you. In short, you need to station yourself in front of the mirror and take a good, close look at the only person in your life who will sincerely and from the heart welcome your constant success… instead of greeting it with two of the most dismissive and disdainful words in the language: “WHO CARES?”

“Who cares if the sky cares to fall in the sea? / Who cares what banks fail in Yonkers? Long as you’ve got a kiss that conquers?”

You care, and that must be enough to begin the beguine.

Thus, for the tune to accompany this most important article, I give you a pair of Gershwins, George and Ira, geniuses both, who respectively in 1931 wrote the dazzling music and peppy lyrics for “Who Cares?”; found in the hit Broadway production of “Of Thee I Sing.” Go to any search engine and find the version that most appeals to you. There are many to choose from. Then make G. Gershwin’s sophisticated, quick-stepping melody your particular and long-overdue theme song.

Study the company that pays you… do you really understand it and its mission?

Chances are that the lower you go in the personnel ranks of the enterprise which values you so much that it actually pays you, the less those personnel know about that enterprise. But this is not the case with those who aim for upward advance. These people make it a point not merely to have (at least) the last five years of annual reports and other useful findings and revelations but actually to scrutinize them. Such people come clearly to know how valuable such information can be — to you.

In addition, gather current expert analyses of the company’s stock and overall business situation, benefits, problems, data which top officers have and the lower ranks don’t. The more such timely, strategic data you gather and master, the more clearly you mark your place amongst the great ones of your business. The faster you wish to advance, the more assiduous you will be not merely in collecting such data… but truly understanding them.

Next, search the greatest repository of business information in the history of ambitious human kind, the ‘net. Make it a point to locate valuable intelligence, on its products, services, biographies of key employees, executives, directors, etc. Nothing that a senior executive would find helpful should fail to find its way into your bulging portfolios.

Meet the boss, understand the boss, help the boss…. and the boss will help you.

Generations of sad sacks and the terminally clueless have wasted untold millions of hours complaining about the boss, making sure that not a single blemish or imperfection goes unnoticed and commented upon. This is helpful to no one. Humbly, I am here to offer a better, more sensible policy. Help your boss. Here’s how to do it:

First, resolve that you will forego the thrill of shredding your boss. Generations of employees have turned this into a rite of passage; you can’t be “one of us” they say unless you turn the boss into dross. YOU, reader, must rise above this and keep YOUR objective always in mind. This means working with, not working against, your boss.

Open a file called “helping the boss.” On Day 1 you’ve got nothing in that file. Make sure this situation is as short as possible. Keep your eyes open for aspects of the company that need improvement, immediate, intermediate, and long-term. Your job is to see… and report…. on problems… and possible solutions. How do you do this? By not merely walking through things but perceiving them, perhaps for the first time.

Thus, even as you drive into the parking lot, go into improvement mode. See it as a discerning critic would see it. Is it clean, for instance? Does it make a good impression on visitors as well as workers? In short, is it a credit to your company… or a certain demerit?

Now do this with every aspect of the company, your company, the company YOU want to improve your life by joining its leadership team, even becoming El Jefe Maximo.

Slow and steady wins the race.

It is very important that you approach this project slowly and deliberately, always keeping your objective clear in mind. Thus, be discrete. Do not draw attention to yourself and never, ever tell anyone what you’re doing or your ultimate goal. Mum’s the word.

“Only those who look can see.”

Every working day you and your fellow employees go through a series of steps, all supposed to assist in the company’s growth and development. The longer you have been going through these steps the more likely you do them automatically, without thinking, without seeing, and certainly without the idea of scrutinizing and improving. If you mean to move up, you must be different. You must not pass by casually without actually considering what you’ve seen. You must see with the eagle-eye of someone determined to move up by pointing out and eradicating flaws, imperfections, errors, and money draining problems.

Pay dirt.

Now hear this! Every time you see a problem, see it as an opportunity for you to shine by improving the company and its operations whilst giving you a leg up on your flat-footed competitors. What to do now calls for determination, delicacy, discretion and action. As you mean to become a leader, so now must you act like one.

Once you have found something that needs correction (and, remember, every company has a plethora of such matters) write it down. Then consider whether you can solve the matter yourself, or not. In short, once you have identified the problem what comes next?

If you can solve the problem, do so. Then send a short note to the CEO indicating the problem and what you did. Please note that solving the problem yourself without notifying the CEO or proper authority within the company is only recommended when the problem is small and easily fixed.


Write to the CEO.

I must say and say strongly that this message must be a minor work of art. Your job is merely to point out the problem. No criticism of any kind, much less criticism that might fall upon the CEO and his “watch” must ever be made. You want to be a member, and a respected one, of the leadership team. This means picking your shots and always being chary about what you write and how you write it.

No answer?

Once you have identified the problem and so advised the CEO (or appropriate company officer if you know who that may be) sit back and relax. Be patient. Give it two-three weeks for response. Do not follow up prematurely or give the CEO the feeling you are pushing or pressuring. That defeats your purpose. And if you must follow up just do so in a line or two.

More likely the CEO will send you a brief note of acknowledgement and thanks. Eureka! When he does, put this golden missive in your hope chest. You are now on the blissful ladder of success. Wait three or four weeks, then do it again. Soon the CEO will get the point of you, golden guy or gal that you are, and you’ll be singing Gershwin in the shower. After all, your lunch with the CEO must soon occur…

“Life is one long jubilee/So long as I care for you/ and you care for me!”

About the Author

Harvard-educated Dr. Jeffrey Lant is CEO of Worldprofit, Inc., providing a wide range of online services for small and-home based businesses. Services include home business training, affiliate marketing training, earn-at-home programs, traffic tools, advertising, webcasting, hosting, design, WordPress Blogs and more. Find out why Worldprofit is considered the # 1 online Home Business Training program by getting a free Associate Membership today. Republished with author’s permission by Daniel Fischer

Harvard and MIT to offer free online classes. What it means for you, what it means for the world, what it means for education.

Author’s program note. Commodore Cornelius Vanderbilt (1794-1877) was the first of the mega rich American tycoons. He made his money in transportation… first with boats ferrying freight and passengers between Staten Island and Manhattan, then by combining America’s 13 railroad systems into the massive New York Central railroad, with which he controlled America’s crucial and lucrative transportation network.

How did he do it? In part by never being the first person to commit his resources to the establishment and growth of a new business. No, indeed. Instead he watched what other entrepreneurs were doing… until he figured out where they were right and, as important, where they were making mistakes and were vulnerable. With such facts firmly in hand, he developed a plan that simultaneously destroyed their business… and established him as the lead player in the enterprises he wished to dominate. It was brilliant and it made him very rich indeed.

The same thing is happening right now, right here in Cambridge where on May 2, 2012, the two greatest educational institutions on earth gave public notice that they plan not only to go online with educational classes, but intend to be the dominant players.

“Urbi et Orbi”.

Since 1626 when the Basilica was completed, the pontiffs of the Roman Catholic Church have raised their gloved hands on the balcony of St. Peter’s to address “Urbi et Orbi”, the people of Rome and the people of the world. This appearance was designed to impress and it did. One man, his important message, the attention of the world, and the change that man desired and mandated. Thus, the Bishop of Rome did his business — and thus he does it to this day.

And so do Harvard and MIT aim to do their business and change the world “Cantabridgia et Urbi”, to the people of Cambridge and to the people of the world… a development of literally universal significance.

Scrutinizing the field, determined to better what is available, putting their money where their mouth is.

Since the inception of the Internet, farseeing people have rightly said there would be classes offered to the world… but how and by whom? The devil, as is entirely usual in such matters, was in the details. And so a series of entrepreneurs stepped forward and offered their version of online education, in the hope that theirs would be the version that stuck, thus

* The Minerva Project. a for-profit university with all course material available online.

* Udacity. A startup born from online engineering courses at Stanford University.

* Coursera. A center for online courses from Stanford, Princeton, Michigan and Penn.

Up until the joint announcement of Harvard and MIT these organizations had a shot at success. But the minute Harvard President Drew Faust and MIT President Susan Hockfield had their say, you could almost feel the palpable dismay of the other online course innovators. Their likelihood of success had just evaporated.

Of course these other innovators put the best possible face on the matter. Coursera’s founders, Andrew Ng and Daphne Koller, said they were glad to see other universities engage in online education; ( though they meant any universities other than Harvard and MIT).

They made a point of emphasizing that those to be offered by edX, the official name of the Harvard-MIT collaboration, would not be nearly as numerous as those they were offering. THEY would offer 40 classes this fall. So there! They made their case as best they could… but no one treated their spin with any seriousness…

… such is the potent magic of Harvard linked now to the technical genius of MIT. Really, who could successfully compete against such a combine? Commodore Vanderbilt knew the answer to that: no one, absolutely no one!

Why the Harvard-MIT Partnership will work.

These are the reasons edX, which will operate as an independent, nonprofit entity, will wallop the field:

1) Brand name. Harvard is the preeminent university in the world, and the world (which craves the reliability and reassurance of brand names) knows Harvard. While MIT may not be as generally well known, its reputation amongst the technically agile is unsurpassed. Quite simply, this team rocks.

2) Money. Harvard and MIT each plunked down $30 million to finance this enterprise. They know it takes money to make money, and by committing a significant sum, they announced this was a major project and would get major attention and and major financing.

3) Talent. The best people in the world want to be associated with these titans of learning. Harvard enhances their resumes; they burnish Harvard’s already majestic community of scholars and MIT’s technocrats. Now an expert in Tokyo or Oslo can teach for edX and never come to Cambridge. Think what this means! Now every scholar and technical expert on earth glimpses their connection and future with the most significant global instructional effort ever. And as a result they will flock to be a part of something so timely, significant, and influential.

4) Students. Recruitment for students will feature classes restricted to a million auditors. These classes will fill in minutes, and have waiting lists. Only Harvard and MIT can contemplate such reality. People in every country on earth will thrill to such an education, offered by such institutions, theirs now for the first time and joyously.

As President Hockfield said, “You can choose to view this era as one of threatening change and unsettling volatility, or you can see it as a moment charged with the most exciting possibilities presented to educators in our lifetime.”


There are, to be sure, many matters yet to be arranged. Of course there are; the world is being summoned here for advancement and sweeping change. How could there not be dozens of important elements not yet resolved, not the least being how to recognize student participation and achievement without watering down the degrees offered by each institution. You can be assured the Old Guard will scrutinize this matter with the utmost care. But these details in due course will be solved leaving us to behold and benefit from this cosmic enterprise sure to advance our species.

For this moment, we need great Beethoven and his 3rd Symphony, “Eroica” (1805) It celebrates grand ideas, great visions, thrilling vistas, and the achievement of our highest and most challenging inspirations, aspirations and objectives. For this moment only Beethoven will do. Go now to any search engine and find this soaring sound and remember you were here when mankind made this stupendous leap into a future suddenly better.

About the Author

Harvard-educated Dr. Jeffrey Lant is CEO of Worldprofit, Inc., providing a wide range of online services for small and-home based businesses. Services include home business training, affiliate marketing training, earn-at-home programs, traffic tools, advertising, webcasting, hosting, design, WordPress Blogs and more. Find out why Worldprofit is considered the # 1 online Home Business Training program by getting a free Associate Membership today. Republished with author’s permission by Daniel Fischer Check out Info Cash ->

5 tellltale signs you’re not really interested in business success… you just like talking about it.

By Dr. Jeffrey Lant

Author’s program note. This is one of the dozens of articles I’ve written about success. All are prescriptive, honest, detailed… the kind of articles you use a refrigerator magnet to post for the one in your house who talks the best game about success… but never does what’s necessary to achieve it. (That could be YOU!)

I’m writing this report for those who engage mouth… but nothing else.

Who try to make you feel small by always prattling on about the BIG things they mean to achieve… but somehow never do.

These people need help and they need it instantly. I aim to provide it… and I’m going to call on the spirit of Harry S. Truman, once president of the United States, to assist. I’m in a big pro-Truman phase right now, not least because I’m again reading one of the best written and most intelligent presidential biographies, David McCullough’s “Truman.” It is so rich I only permit myself to read a bit every day, because I know how good it is and how distressed I’ll be at its conclusion.

For this article’s theme music I’ve selected Paderewski’s Minuet in G, a piece Truman knew well; Paderewski himself had shown Truman how to play it… and on one memorable evening during the Potsdam conference of 1945, he played it to the most distinguished audience in the world, headed by the other two of the “Big Three”, Stalin and Churchill. The elegant music of another, more graceful age incongruously rose into the night air drifting over the macabre ruins of prostrate Berlin. You’ll find it in any search engine. Play it now.

Getting on with the job.

Harry Truman was one of the most quintessentially American presidents the Great Republic has ever had. He was hard-working, conscientious to a fault, direct speaking, humble about himself but determined to improve America and the world using the powers of the office he venerated, and graced. He had the profound American belief that problems were not obstacles, but challenges… and that they could be solved, all of them, if folks just got down to the essential business of solving them.

His approach, of course, might have been so very different. Being President of the United States, he could have pontificated in endless wordiness about what he was going to do… then returned to the White House to play the poker he loved with the buddies who made him laugh and relax, promises forgotten.

Or he could, following in the footsteps of one of the most revered of leaders, Franklin Roosevelt, give way to feelings of inadequacy, a man of slender skills dwarfed by one of history’s giants. But he didn’t go this direction either, despite a famously indiscrete toast by Winston Churchill who said, “I must confess, sir, I held you in very low regard. I loathed your taking the place of Franklin Roosevelt.” With friends like these… Untimely delivered to be sure, but a sentiment the majority of the American people shared with Churchill and which they, along with Churchill, changed as they came to know the man and his methods better. Then, Churchill rendered his revised opinion thus:

” ‘He is a man of immense determination. He takes no notice of delicate ground, he just plants his foot down firmly upon it’. To make his point, Churchill jumped a little off the wooden floor and brought both bare feet down with a smack.”

Now, be honest, would anyone call you a person of “immense determination” with an acute desire to solve problems and a practical willingness to do so as soon as possible? We have now arrived at the moment of truth, where you need to be a person of total veracity and integrity. Can you rise to this absolutely essential level? If so, it’s time to transform your habits so that you can create success after success; to start having and quit merely talking about it.

1) Shift from talking about to actually having success.

So, when was your last success? The longer ago the date you now provide, the bigger your problem. Successful people are starkly “now” oriented. They won’t tell you about the successes of years ago; the successes that matter are the ones of recent date. Thus, just how far back you have to go to find a meaningful success constitutes a very clear indication of just how big a problem you have.

2) You must be confident enough about your judgement to make decisions.

Successful people are decision-making people. They know that the achievement of success, then the maintenance and expanding of this success is a function of not just hundreds, but thousands of decisions:

Should I buy this inventory at this price, or not?

Should I invest the company’s assets in an interest paying account for this amount of time, or not?

Should I inform this very difficult customer that my firm cannot handle her business anymore, or not?

Should I fire this, hire this, advance this, demote this particular individual, or not?

Review the life and condition of any successful person, and you will see a steady increase in the number and importance of decisions made. Leadership, prosperity, success is all about the ability to make complicated decisions without regret, without second guessing yourself.

3) Successful people will work with you to work things out.

There is a marvelous phrase in the Bible that says simply, “Come now, let us reason together.” (Isaiah 1-18) This is precisely what successful people do. Of course, they want to make the best deal, but they realize the best deal contains substantial benefits for the people they are negotiating with; in other words, it is mutually beneficial. If the parties are mutually content, the deal is not only satisfactory for now, but keeps the door open for subsequent deals. And this is the best deal of all.

4) Successful people know the point, grasp the point, and keep their eyes and mind on the point.

Successful people are focused people. Life, already short, cannot be wasted; carpe diem is their motto, guide, and objective. They know that this day will end; that is a given. What is not a given is what benefits they have garnered from the day. The fact of a day is God-given; what happens in that day is determined by each of us. People who talk about tomorrow, next week, next month are fooling themselves and are rightly shunned and disregarded by people who regard procrastination, sloth, and inertia as completely unacceptable and root them out accordingly.

5) Successful people anticipate what people they are working with might need and gather it in advance.

Successful people are perceiving people, thinking people, aware people. They brainstorm options and are thoughtful about what may happen and how to prepare for it, for the ease and comfort of all.

Is this how you are? Or are you always a part of the problem, never part of the solution?

In this regard, consider what Floyd Boring, one of President Truman’s secret service agents, said about him:

“He never came on as being superior. He could talk to anyone! He could talk to the lowly peasant. He could talk to the King of England… And that was, I think, his secret.. He never got swellheaded — never got, you know, swagly.”

Ask yourself if anyone will ever regard you this way… and work hard to make sure they do.

About the Author

Harvard-educated Dr. Jeffrey Lant is CEO of Worldprofit, Inc., providing a wide range of online services for small and-home based businesses. Republished with author’s permission by Daniel Fischer Check out Info Cash ->

An open letter to every ambitious junior manager in the world from your mostdedicated supporter, me.

By Dr. Jeffrey Lant

Author’s program note. In 1961 New York City went to work with a smile on its face and a can’t-help-but-like-it rhythm on the brain. It was Robert Morse and the ensemble of “How To Succeed in Business Without Really Trying” by author Shepherd Mead and composer Frank Loesser.

It is a story of corporate ascension, told through the mischievous eyes of J. Pierrepont (Ponty) Finch…. and, if corporate elysium was your goal, you just couldn’t get enough of this “I’m destined for success” production.

One of the most clever tunes in this so-very-clever show was “I believe in you,” in which Ponty stands in front of a mirror and serenades his most enduring supporter — himself. Now, before you begin this article about your success, go to any search engine to find this number. Then get prepared to let the irrepressible Morse, with that killer grin, provide the musical incense to waft you on your way.

Dear Junior Manager….

Every successful person in the world (including Ponty) has had something which you too must get… and which is now available to you and not a moment too soon.

Woodrow Wilson had Colonel House. Franklin D. Roosevelt had Harry Hopkins. Queen Victoria had Prince Albert while Prince Albert had Baron Stockmar… In other words, part of the kit of every successful person everywhere is the disinterested, devoted-to-you, completely honest and fearlessly outspoken confidential advisor. And now you join the ranks of these with your brand new completely candid counselor, coach, and goad… me. Nice to meet you, partner!

Here’s your situation. You are now a junior manager, a member of your company’s management cadre. Your foot on the first rung of business success, just. Congratulations, the thousand mile journey starts with a single step. Now the game becomes moving up the corporate ladder as quickly and nimbly as possible, leaving your less agile and well advised competitors in the dust. Here’s your first installment of insider information.

!) Your attitude determines your altitude.

Did you ever notice how really successful people maintain an upbeat “can do” attitude, even when (maybe especially when) the going gets rough? As Henry Ford II famously said, “You think you can. You think you can’t. Either way you’re right.” Success seekers know that the right attitude is the essential attribute for facing each day of what can often be a most complicated, difficult, and daunting business, your life.

2) Know the players.

In every organization, there are people who matter… and people who don’t. Your job, whilst always being pleasant and amicable to all, is to identify the power players, the players who are where they are with the powers they have for one reason and one reason only — to abet you in your upward mobility. Successful people are discriminating people. They know time is fleeting and that each day is an opportunity to move up… movement that can be either assisted or blocked by those currently higher in the pecking order. It is your job to make a knowledgeable friend with the business, someone older, wiser, better placed than you are… someone like the CEO’s long-time secretary and executive assistant. She knows things which you need to know. Make it a point to introduce yourself…. start the relationship off by being bright, cheerful, friendly, and always respectful and grateful for their willingness to assist — you. Make it a point particularly to greet this important contact daily; insinuate by bringing a dough-nut, a flower from the garden… and always your best manners and winning smile, always necessary.

Important insights: never wait for an introduction to the people you want and need to meet. Presumption is the root of success… presume that these people want to meet someone who’s as dedicated to the success of the enterprise as you are. You can, of course, after you’ve begun to develop that crucial relationship with your important inside source, ask that individual to introduce you. Remember, timing is everything; you cannot ask for introductions too soon… and you should never wait too long to request them. Too, you must never ask for too many. You’ll find out from your confidential source who is essential for you to know for openers… keep your eye on meeting, and impressing, this person, a rung in your ladder.

3) With friendship towards all, with intimacy with few.

Have you ever watched the people of your business as they come to work, who they greet, josh and joke with — and ignore. Now hear this: EVERYONE in your company, from the obvious highest to the often forgotten lowest has a place in your upward mobility. Most people, not as well advised as you of course, close relationships which it is easy and useful to maintain. Sure the custodian may not be the sharpest tool in the shed; it costs you nothing to treat this person with friendliness and good manners; someday you’ll be glad for that relationship, because I can assure you he has information that you will need… and which you’ll be grateful he gives you. In short, never disdain anyone. That is what the unenlightened and feckless do… not you!

4) Listen to the grumblers; never become one.

In every company there exists a group of grumblers, who have long ago forgotten (if indeed they ever knew) that assisting the business grow and thrive must be their goal, not denigrating it at every turn. Such grumblers are often headed by an overweight diva named Trudy whose motor mouth and nasty hygiene offend everyone. You must learn how to handle such people, just so. Always listen respectfully to what they say; there may, after all, be something worth hearing mixed into the bile. Maintain friendly, professional relations. But never, never join or be perceived as a part of this noisome claque. Such people are poison to your certain ascension.

Your task with such people is to establish and maintain what diplomatists call “correct” relations, relations which are totally and completely professional, which keep the door open, but never demand you go through. Remember, information is power. Remember, too, ALL information is useful at a particular point. Thus gather what is useful, to be retained and used later as necessary and useful for — you.

5) Be conscious at all times.

People who succeed are people of discernment, perception, judgement. They do not, as those who fail do, ever stop being aware. Too many people, including many who work at your company (but never including you) have long ago slipped into the rut of merely going through the motions of what is required to do their job. They have lost consciousness of what they are doing, why they are doing it, and how what they are doing can be used for their advancement. Dropping into this state of oblivion is absolutely fatal and can never be allowed.

You must do things very differently.

If you want the kind of organizational advancement with all its perqs as you say you do, then you must stay alert, conscious, always scrutinizing, analyzing, aiming for complete and total awareness of your situation and what you must do every day to advance, advance, advance!

And so our session for today ends, the first I trust of many. For I intend to provide you, over a long duration, the kind of rare and insightful advice at once desirable, hard to find and yet so necessary. By all means, come visit my blog, a site entirely dedicated to your success and always awaiting you. For you see, as Robert Morse sang in his signature number, “I believe in you…”

About the Author

Harvard-educated Dr. Jeffrey Lant is CEO of Worldprofit, Inc., providing a wide range of online services for small and-home based businesses. Dr. Jeffrey Lant is also a consultant, speaker, trainer and author of 18 best-selling business books. Republished with author’s permission by Daniel Fischer Check out Google Cash Monster ->

What really constitutes success? Courageous researchers turn the world upsidedown, as they reveal why failure should be your career path of choice.

by Dr. Jeffrey Lant

Actung! Warning! Cuidado!

The world’s foremost authorities on what constitutes success have released their long-awaited report. It is a blockbuster, an astonishing tour de force on what really constitutes success and failure.

This astonishing report, an eon or two in the making, drawing as it does from the circumstances and life paths of people worldwide, delivers its grave conclusions with a plethora of detail previously only hinted at; so explosive are these findings for you and for people worldwide who, until this very minute, have been kept from them by a worldwide conspiracy. Thus the publication of these findings is not only an act of intellectual boldness but of actual physical courage and pluck.

Now we know, for a certainty, what truly constitutes success and what we must do at once.

1) Getting out of bed in the morning is dangerous to your health.

Among the report’s most revolutionary conclusions is that the shear act of getting out of bed is perilous to your health and very existence. For instance: 100% of the people who get up this morning, who dare to put feet into bunny-slippers, will die. Thus, the researchers delivering this now irrefutable truth, are adamant: if you wish to be healthy, indeed even keep life, you must not, cannot and always should not even get out of bed at all. You now have this on the highest authority. Bad things happen to those who get up!

2) Shocking but true. Avoid taking a shower, sprucing yourself up, dressing up, even dressing at all. All and every one of these actions is dangerous to your health. Indeed these courageous researchers go farther: they each individually and all collectively result in certain death! No wonder, they aver, conspirators have been keeping these explosive findings from us!

3) Don’t prepare an agenda or to-do list for today. In a conclusion sure to roil old-time success advocates, it is now known that 100% of people resorting to the use of preparatory notes, check- and to-do lists and business aide memoires will, day by day, be wiped out . This is now unarguable.

4) Get rid of your positive attitude. Another seismic conclusion for the people worldwide who embrace the Cult of Success: drop your positive attitude at once. The short term- effects of a positive, can-do attitude are hazardous; the long-term effects are terminal.

Your positive attitude could, indeed most likely would, place you in the closest possible proximity to other positively attituded people worldwide, thereby compounding the effects of this condition. For example, It is well-known that people in business with positive attitude will a) attract people to you b) cause these people to do business with you, thereby increasing your (always undesirable work load), and c) result in the acquisition of money which further increases your work load. One, after all, cannot merely have money; one must work to determine what to do with it. And the punishing effects of all this work add up: work to get it, work more to invest it, work still more to handle the increasing wealth begat by this demanding increasing wealth, the whole a burdensome, staggering amount of work — and all easily avoided.

Researchers are clear and adamant: for real success, JUST SAY NO! Save your life; don’t lift a finger on your own behalf, much less for anyone else, any one at all. Remember, you are in this life for yourself and yourself only; even your “nearest and dearest”, are really nothing more than cannon fodder. (But don’t let them known, lest their generosity to you stop at once and absolutely.)

5) Never, ever offer your business prospects and clients a good offer, much less a superior knock-their-socks-off offer. Why? Because they might take it… and that would never do. After all, you’d then have to do the work, not least having to cater to them and all their quaint, whimsical notions about what constitutes proper and acceptable customer service. And this will, as stated, never do, for they too are nothing more than a necessary evil.

Researchers have now shown conclusively that the correct, more eminently sensible way to a handle these pests is to promise everything while delivering nothing. The researchers pointed out that a good many businesses, even the most renowned and long-standing, already do this with (so they report) happy impunity. They are and truly in the vanguard, and their notable effects on behalf of customer (dis) service are hereby noted — and praised. These titans set the trend for us all.

6) Never return a phone call. For this too increases your already rocketing out of control work load. Here the researchers remind us: 100 per cent of working people, the more so every small and home-based business owner, reports stress. Medical researchers are clear that there is a stress-related component in virtually every human illness. Thus, work is the truest cause and reason for human ailments and demise. The strongest possible action is immediately necessary to combat these trends and fight human morbidity.

Thus, stop placing and stop answering phone calls at once.

Now hear this: EVERY time you place or return a phone call you are initiating a process that increases your already aching work load. Again the stress factor is not only apparent; it becomes determinative as the number of such calls increase. As your usage of these becomes paramount, the inherent destructive effects become uncontrollable and destructive. You no longer work the machine; the machine works you… right into stress, disability, and the certainty of an early demise where only the heirs to your earthly fortune are contented. As the researchers make clear, cease and desist and so save yourself — your progeny to perdition

7) Never say “thank you” and never, ever “give back”.

To lead the most perfect of lives, to achieve the quintessence of success, there are, so researchers emphatically point out, things you must do (e.g.”avoid all work for yourself; delegate lavishly to others”.) and — even more importantly — things you must never do. Here are two of the most important of the latter:

Never say thank you to anyone at any time for any reason. Saying thank you is not only a task, and all tasks, whether menial or significant, should be discarded as energy draining and unproductive. Moreover, to say thank you to others opens a Pandora’s box of woes… not the least of which is that a thank-you in any form becomes a standing invitation for the person being thanked to ask you for something, thereby increasing your always uncongenial work-load. Don’t go there, for there lie dragons.

Finally, never “give back”. Researchers have deduced, in one of the most breathtaking of their findings, that the successful hoard, not disperse; they hide resources, never disclosing; they are adept at asset shuffling, never asset donating. And you must be the same… for to start on the road of “giving back” will inexorably lead others to expect, implore and even insist that you do so; thereby diminishing the mountain of property you have created for yourself alone, any other use being inimical to your own best interests. By following these entirely frank, candid, insightful observations on the true realities of success, you will truly be a success, the very acme of what you can be. Such an event needs a celebration and such a celebration needs a great voice to do you homage. I have invited signature crooner Bing Crosby to serenade you. Look in any search engine for “Swinging on a Star” from the 1941 film “Going My Way”. Oh yes, by following the researchers’ recommendations, you’ll surely swing… but not on a star. For der Bingle was right, all the monkeys don’t live in the zoo…

About the Author

Harvard-educated Dr. Jeffrey Lant is CEO of Worldprofit, Inc. , providing a wide range of online services for small and-home based businesses. Dr. Lant is also the author of 18 best-selling business books. Republished with author’s permission by Daniel Fischer

It’s time for your bonfire of excuses. Reflections on gettingout of your own way, seizing success today

by Dr. Jeffrey Lant

One way and another I have been in business for, what, over 40 years.

I have created and run businesses, right up to the present.

Taught thousands of business students of every age.

Written 18 business books and thousands of business articles.

Had a nationally syndicated radio program on business.

But you get the point. Having now established, I trust, my bone fides, I am going to have my say about why so many people who say they want to be entrepreneurs will never, ever succeed in business.

Hint: it’s something millions of entrepreneurs do daily that keeps them firmly amongst the also-rans.

It’s the matter of excuses. The better you are at making them, the less good you are at making money and the less success overall.

Thus, today I want to propose a new and absolutely essential project for yourself… retiring your characteristic excuses, one at a time, and then burning them in the most important fire of your life, the bonfire of excuses.

First, hear what you say and perceive how deeply ingrained excuses are in your conversation.

Language is made up of building blocks, starting from letters of the alphabet, through words, phrases, etc. By the time we’re adults most of us have long since stopped paying attention to the building blocks of communication; we talk, we hope others listen to what we say because we’re not listening to it ourselves. Why should we? We know what we mean, right?

Your first task today is to put yourself and your daily attempts to communicate under a microscope. To root out excuses you must first know you make them. Are you aware, for instance, how often you blame lack of time to invest in your business for your failure get ahead?

This is a classic excuse, with innumerable variations.

Here excuse means to cite as a cause for failure or inaction an event, person, or thing which in point of fact has absolutely nothing to do with the matter; to excuse yourself from responsibility and provide a spurious reason for lack of progress, growth, success. In the process you deceive all and sundry; most importantly you deceive yourself.

Let’s look at one crucial area where your facility with making excuses is killing your profits and growth: ad copy. When was the last time you reviewed each and every ad you’re paying good money to run? I bet it’s been a long, long time (if at all). Instead of reviewing your ads, keeping track of all your responses and profits, knowing how much these ads cost, and then retiring the losers, you instead say “I would have done it, but I was too busy.”

This is, of course, rubbish.

The long and short of the matter is that you

1) didn’t budget time;

2) let lesser activities take precedence, in part because you were slothful and they were easier;

3) therefore let unresponsive, unremunerative ad copy continue without a plan for reviewing, removing, re-doing.

If you are to stop and permanently eradicate from your business life the crippling excuses which are so damaging to your success, you must be willing to see yourself as the clear problem… and do what it takes to radically change your ways.

As regards the above matter of reviewing ad copy, you need to scrutinize your current daily activities (how many hours did you say you took for “breaks”?) and ruthlessly drop the activities which aren’t paying and rigorously substitute those that either save you money, make you money, or both.

“I don’t have the money.”

Think of the machines, the personnel, the training, the marketing and advertising, the research and development your business requires. It can be, and for many is, daunting.

Thus when asked why you have an outmoded computer or Internet services, etc. you offer without thinking that you “don’t have the money”. More rubbish.

The truth is you most likely have not reviewed each and every dollar you spend, to determine (with the most severe scrutiny) just where it all goes… and, taking the matter one step further, to where it ought to go.

Thus, your knee-jerk response, offered over and over again, is that you lack the funds.

“My computer is old, but I just don’t have the money…”

“My delivery van needs to be traded in for a new one and the correct, updated advertising information painted on it, but I just don’t have the money…”

“I know I look like a homeless person, but I just don’t have the money for suitable clothes…”

Each and every one of these commonly-used excuses spurns the truth in favor of this very popular excuse. And so, daily, you hobble your business… by your own failure to review your situation, see things as they are, and make the necessary decisions accordingly. You don’t need an excuse… you need a psychiatrist.

Why do you do it? Whatever your reasons, excuses are anathema… the bane of business success… the root of diminished expectations and realities.

Fortunately, you can start the necessary changes…. today!

You now have a choice: to continue making excuses, passing them off as facts when they are anything but… or ruthlessly eradicating them, from this moment. Some of you, through inaction, will keep your current situation; making excuses, not money.

But if you’re determined to grasp maximum success, you’ll thank me for this necessary wake-up call and follow these steps to the letter:

1) As stated, review what you say and how you say it.

2) Don’t create excuses which attempt to pass off as facts your faulty suppositions, unproven deductions, and general inaccuracies.

3) Put the harshest light on what you do and say; determine whether it makes you money, or not, and reform accordingly.

4) Beginning today, now, keep a pad with you at all times, and as you hear yourself making an excuse, any excuse, write it on your pad as a configuration of words due to be expunged.

5) Try to remove at least one excuse from your speech every day. As you do so, write the inhibiting phrase on a page. Then take it out to your barbecue and burn it…. burn it completely, thoroughly, until absolutely nothing is left. This marks your transition from excuse maker to problem solver. You are already on the heady road to… MORE of what you want, rather than excuses for what you didn’t have and could never get under your old regime. Happily, you are about to be a better and a richer person. Let me be the first to congratulate you.

About the Author

Harvard-educated Dr. Jeffrey Lant is CEO of Worldprofit, Inc., providing a wide range of online services for small and-home based businesses.
Republished with author’s permission by Daniel Fischer Check out Info Cash ->

There is only one thing worse than not achieving a goal and that is achieving it.

by Dr. Jeffrey Lant

Are you a goal-driven individual?

First, do you regularly set goals for yourself?

Do you then plan just how you’ll achieve them… and once having planned your work you work your plan?

If this is you, congratulate yourself. You are literally one in a million and the world is your oyster.

In theory.

People who set goals… people who achieve goals are a precious minority of any community, for-profit, or not-for- profit organization.

They are the people who live the celebrated epigram, “Lead, follow, or get out of the way.” When they lead, they perform the leader’s task with efficiency, organization, and, yes, joy.

When they follow, they listen to the designated leaders, making sure they know their task, then doing it.

It is a thrill and a privilege to know such people, not least because they create an environment conducive to success.

Why then have I said that there is only one thing worse than not achieving a goal… and that is achieving it?

In this article I shall make clear the problems that afflict the special people, the performance oriented people, the movers and shakers. Keeping successes coming, greater successes, important successes, more magnificent successes is never inevitable. And here’s the rub, just because you were successful today, by no means ensures you will be successful tomorrow.

Indeed, the world is awash in one-time successes who once were the center of attention, the golden boy or girl. They had what everyone else wanted… but having didn’t mean keeping. That proved to be not only elusive… but, after a time, impossible.

There is nothing sadder than listening to an individual once undeniably successful… now talk and live exclusively in that past; the success they had was fleeting and its continuing absence noticeable and glaring.

I am here to ensure that you do not become that sad individual, the person for whom the calendar always says yesterday.

1) Successful people aim for a sequence of successes, not just successful episodes and incidents.

Review the history of the prevalent “once-upon-a-time” successes and you will see that their success was limited to a particular time, place, and thing. It was isolated, unique in their experience, non-recurring. The situations of successful people are radically different.

They do not succeed one or twice and live off their decaying laurels forever; instead, they aim to have success after success after success, until the very idea of failure is unthinkable.

2) Successful people see life as a gigantic planning opportunity; an unequalled opportunity to bring home the bacon time after time after time.

The successful lead lives where what they do and how they do it is always linked to the master plan that they have worked on for their entire lives. No incident can be viewed in isolation, because every incident is a step towards larger goals and greater successes. For such people any success is nothing more than a step to ever greater success.

3) Successful people analyze what went right and what went wrong in each success they attain. Every success is not a conclusion, but a necessary learning opportunity.

By definition successful people place each and every success under a microscope giving it a full and complete scrutiny. Successful people study success; it is in fact their constant endeavor to turn each success into a learning laboratory.

4) Successful people have a succession of goals. Moreover these sequential goals are written down, regularly reviewed and updated… and always represent more challenge and responsibility. For the successful, life is a step ladder, never a sofa and easy chair.

Do you have such goals? Are they written down? Do you constantly consider just what goals achieved today mean in terms of more substantial goals and achievements tomorrow? As successful people grow and mature they become masters of such questions and answers.

More things successful people do.

5) Successful people are all about the future. They focus is on now, of course, because it is in this now they must learn the essentials of success and achieve each individual success.

But successful people always keep an eye on the future. They focus on what they want in that future, vividly aware that what they do today and how well they do guarantees the future of their desire.

6) Successful people make mistakes.

There isn’t a person alive who doesn’t make errors of commission and omission. Successful people know that reviewing today’s errors ensures tomorrow’s victories. And as it is victory they want and insist upon above all, each error is analyzed, understood, turned into part of the primer on success.

7) Successful people are not defensive.

The characteristic response of the unsuccessful to areas where they have erred and need a different, improved response is defensive. Such responses will be of the “no one told me. I’m innocent. It’s her fault, it’s her fault” variety. These responses are a clear indication that the person in question has little or no idea what successful people say in such circumstances.

“Thank you for pointing this out to me. I have made written notation of what you want.”

Bingo, with such a response you are no longer defending the indefensible, you are instead turning an error, a misunderstanding, a questionable act into a valuable learning experience. 8) Successful people keep journals, diaries, etc.

So long as you live you can become a success story all your own. One thing you need is the most detailed and thorough notes about yourself. Remember, every single thing you do either assists success… or retards, even destroys it. That is where detailed personal journals are mandatory.

In such documents, you put yourself under a keen scrutiny which never ends and which must be both complete and honest.

The extent to which you fail to have and keep such personal information is the extent to which you are prepared to jettison intensely valuable information… and all the successes which might have hinged on their existence and use.

9) Successful people thank the people who helped them.

Successful people are people who are beneficiaries of constant assistance from parents, other family members, teachers, clergy, coaches, etc., a process that only ends with death.

Successful people feel privileged to acknowledge and recognize the hard work and sincere assistance provided by many, many others. Unsuccessful people feel diminished by such help; not enhanced by it.

The avoidable tragedy of The Void where there are no new goals to take the place of old goals achieved.

The worst thing that can happen to a person who wants true, continual success is to finish a goal… and not know what he/she should be doing next. As indicated above you must always have goals that go beyond even the most major goals you are working on now. There must never, ever be a gap… for that is an opportunity for losing track of your objectives and becoming directionless.

Now that you have read this article with its admonitions and recommendations, you will never have this problem. With clockwork regularity you will always conclude a goal, knowing just what major goal follows.

Your job is to turn the achievement of success into an unrelenting, never ending system. And now you know how to do it.

About the Author

Harvard-educated Dr. Jeffrey Lant is CEO of Worldprofit, Inc., providing a wide range of online services for small and-home based businesses. Dr. Lant is also the author of 18 best-selling business books. Republished with author’s permission by Daniel Fischer

You are not ‘self made’. No one is. Reflections on the need to admit, to acknowledge, and, above all, to thank.

by Dr. Jeffrey Lant

I am, amongst other things, a professional speaker of many years experience. Such people are trained to read audiences; see what works… and run with it… while eschewing and abandoning any line that doesn’t arouse the audience and fails to seize their hearts and minds.

The other day I was delivering a lecture on the need, the absolute and unshakable necessity, to work as part of a team on the ‘net; to stop believing that you can succeed alone, all by yourself.

In an instant, I felt the connection with my audience strengthen; it was just as if I had grabbed the hand of my beloved and felt, in prompt but unmistakable way, the slightest pressure in return; slight perhaps but there, there! It is an unforgettable moment, highly charged with rapture, bliss, and possibilities such is the deep- seated power of connection. I now had that power at my command….

The noxious phrase: “self-made”.

It is time to take aim at one of the most inaccurate phrases in the English language, the one that allows (usually men) to preen and brag about the fact that are “self-made.”

When they say that you know you’re in for a reverie composed of the achievements, great and small, of this fellow traveler, fueled by pomposity, egotism, brash self-congratulation. One needs to be well fortified indeed to abide it… for the cascade is likely to be long, fulsome, and right from the start, excessive.

“Devotions upon Emergent Occasions”, John Donne, 1624.

John Donne was an English poet preparing, as he wrote this work, to die. With eternity in mind, he was engaged in a sober, fully engaging business; nothing was more important than to get it right. Out of this frame of mind came these words of profound insight:

No man is an island entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main; if a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as a manor of thy friends or of thine own were; any man’s death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind. And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee.

The pressing task now, before the bell tolls.

One day, ready or not, the bell will toll for thee. Before that occurs you need a moment like John Donne’s, a moment of pure insight into who you are, where you are, and how you got to be that way and here.

This is a process that calls for honesty, sincerity, integrity and the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. For now is the time to see your life as a process aided and facilitated every step of the way by people who gave of themselves so that you might advance.

Too often you have been forgetful of these people; yet they are the engines who have vitally assisted in your development and prosperity.

John Dunne is right. You are not the continent; you are but a part of the continent. You have surely worked hard and long for your success…. but you have not been the sole reason for your success. You are not “self-made”; you are “team made”, a part, but never the whole reason for advancement.

Now, therefore, resolve to thank, thank often, thank lavishly, the greater your prosperity, the more to thank. They have all made you who you are.

Thank your parents.

It is easy, in fact the easiest of all, to take your parents for granted. I have myself been remiss here and am relieved to acknowledge it and commence correction.

Now that I am far, far older than my parents were when I was conceived, I am clear on what they did for me… and what I owe them. They were not only young and in love when I arrived; they had undertaken on my behalf a responsibility of unparalleled magnitude and life-changing, life challenging importance. My very life and well being depended on them getting it right from the very first thing they did… as well as everything thereafter.

Such people, and the claims are even greater if you had but one parent or were raised by people other than your parents, such people I say desire and must have more than a card on Mother’s or Father’s Day. They deserve and must have more than a bouquet belatedly thought of and hastily delivered. They need to know that you remember them, what they did… they need to be reassured, whatever your age, that you remember…. and are grateful; that you will never forget them as the tolling of their bell comes ever closer…

Today is the day for your parents.

Thank your teachers, too

We are all the product of the teachers who gave of themselves, not just for a pay check either, to mold, craft, transform and enhance us… day after day. We have, too often, taken them and their generosity of action and spirit for granted… and we must not do so.

First, understand and acknowledge there was nothing in what they did for us which justifies us taking them for granted. It must be our first task to expunge that dereliction … to see what they did as a blessing, daily given, good people working on the never-ending work in progress who was you. You are the result of dozens of people and their continual attention.

First, remember them by name. You are older now… you are able to see what they did as a great responsibility, taken in seriousness, given beyond expectations… a true gift.

Remember them… and, whenever possible, contact the special teachers who went far beyond whatever could have been expected for you… for you. Send them the most memorable letter any teacher can receive: the one that thanks them, that remembers them, that renews their pride in their profession and what they did, its value and its importance. Remember the many others, too.

Remember, too, the counselors… the clergy… the coaches. They, too, gave generously… and deserve your remembrance and acknowledgement. It is too easy to forget… and overlook. But they deserve much more than that from you. Will you take the necessary action, the generous action and connect with them, yet again, and deliver the pure bliss of gratitude? Take this action with joy in your heart, for it is the right thing to do.

Start today. Rejoice at the happiness you will bring the people who have helped make you… and the contentment you will give yourself and deserve, for such sentiments come from the heart, the very best and most important thing created by all, given by you.

About the Author

Harvard-educated Dr. Jeffrey Lant is CEO of Worldprofit, Inc., providing a wide range of online services for small and-home based businesses. As well as a speaker and consultant, Dr. Lant is the author of 18-best selling books. Republished with author’s permission by Daniel Fischer Check out Info Cash ->

Your lousy communication skills are hurting yourself and others. Here’s what you need to do at once.

by Dr. Jeffrey Lant

It’s time to call a spade a spade. We are members of the most communications savvy and personally wired generation ever. Even the tiniest mite has her cell phone with camera. Yet the truth is, the explosion of communications tools has produced less real communication than ever; you and your poor communications skills are one of the culprits. Listen up! After all, it’s time your communication skills improved to the level of your communications tools.

The quality of communications is not strained…

You, being an educated soul, are no doubt familiar with Portia’s famous speech:

The quality of mercy is not strain’d, It droppeth as the gentle rain from heaven Upon the place beneath. It is twice blest: It blesseth him that gives and him that takes.

(The Merchant of Venice. Act 4, scene 1.)

Bold and even impious, I now advise you (while great Shakespeare rolls in his grave) to change the word “mercy” to “communications,” thus:

The quality of communications is not strain’d… it is twice blessed…”

And so it is. Good communications are good for the recipient and for the sender too.

You know this… but you do not act accordingly. Which is why this (shall we say) motivating article is so necessary and why you should take every single word to heart and make radical adjustments in your lamentable behavior.

Poor communicators (with the probability strong that you are one of them) exhibit these traits:

Arrogance. The human animal is a selfish animal, conceived in selfishness and nurtured in the belief that the Great Me, the universe-centered I Am is the most important animal anywhere at any time. As a result, this animal well and truly believes that she is so important that others must feel grateful, even when the communication is not returned. Oh, my!

People (like you?) who do not communicate effectively are people who are telling others, clear as crystal, that they are superior to you; that their time is more valuable than yours… and that these lesser folk need wait (and happily so) and wait and wait some more until you condescend to respond.

Such people by their behavior and non responsiveness clearly indicate that you and your concerns are, by definition, of infinitely less consideration than theirs. And that you’d best be glad for the little you get, for it is infinitely more than you deserve.

Poor communicators are slothful.

Good communicators, effective communicators realize that the business of communicating is like a tennis match. The ball must always be in motion between the communicator and those he wishes to communicate with. When the ball stops moving, the communication stops with it. The person who has stopped the communicating process is , by definition, the lazy, inhibiting one.

All too often the communication stops and is not extended because of unadulterated sloth. It takes work to communicate… it takes work to conceive a message and deliver that message. It takes work to be prepared and move matters to their next stage. However the slothful communicator can and does think of a myriad of “reasons” why he can obliterate the communications process without remorse. Thus he goes blithely on with his affairs while others, fuming, apply language which is ever more blue as time passes and their legitimate reasons for communicating go without any response whatsoever. Oh, my!

A special cycle of hell

For the intractable, for the miscreants arrogant and slothful who will not change, an idea: for them: a special cycle of hell wherein they are asked such questions as “are you hungry?” or “are you feeling hot and uncomfortable?” These hungry and uncomfortable miscreants answer and answer and answer. But response comes there none, ever. Delicious.

Help for the socially challenged and shy johns and janes everywhere.

Yet is the world of the non communicators made up solely and exclusively of the arrogant and slothful? Certainly not. It is also, and in significant numbers, the preserve of the shy, the timid, the socially malaprop, and untutored.

For them a single word: study.

There is one thing and only one thing which sets us apart and elevated from animals of every kind and place… and that one thing is communicating. So, if you truly wish to learn, improve and foster rather than retard communications, here is what you must learn and do.

1) Learn empathy, that crucial ability to enter into the minds and hearts of the people you are to communicate with. What is it they are expecting from you? Deliver that, to the furthest extent possible, and you have the essential element of success.

2) Be prompt about responding. In an age of instant communications, there can be absolutely no reason for delayed or no response at all except your own failure to provide it. The means are at hand; use them “as quick as boiled asparagus.” And that’s very fast!

3) Be clear on where you can be reached. Assume the person you are communicating with does not have this vital intelligence. State it clearly, thoroughly… and reiterate to avoid any confusion whatsoever.

4) Be willing to try again if the person you are trying to reach (even if that person initiated the communication) fails to respond. Remember, empathy is the basis for successful communications.

5) Above all else, never stop improving your knowledge of communication and its techniques. In this golden age of communications, the overwhelming majority of loaves and fishes will go to the communicating elite… those who make it a point to master communications and steadily enhance their knowledge and expertise. Make that person you!

Give this article to the communicating challenged. They need it so.

Your last task for today is to give a copy of this article to every substandard and inadequate communicator you can. The task at hand, training communicators and enhancing their skills, is a lifetime affair. Start it now. There is so very much to do and so many who need the help.

About The Author

Harvard-educated Dr. Jeffrey Lant is CEO of Worldprofit, Inc., where small and home-based businesses learn how to profit online. Attend Dr. Lant’s live webcast TODAY and receive 50,000 free guaranteed visitors to the website of your choice! Dr. Jeffrey Lant is the author of 18 best-selling business books, as well as being an internationally recognized marketer. Republished with author’s permission by Daniel Fischer Check out Info Cash ->